For those that know me, they know my kiddo as well. I don’t talk about my past much, cause I try to leave it where it is. In my past.

That didn’t work recently. So I guess I’m gonna write about the history that is biting me, and well of course the recent events that have caused a whole new level of Dante’s hell.

I had my kiddo fairly young. I was 22. I was married too, not that that really matters here. Life was as always tumultuous. But we carried on and well time passed. Things between my husband and I were not good. The very abridged version was, that he played World of Warcraft all day (while he was supposed to be taking care of my kiddo). As is normal he became part of a guild, and made some friends there. No big deal right?

WRONG! He started “dating” the person that was my best friend in the guild (I also played occasionally just to spend some quality time with him). Fast forward to Easter. Kiddo and I are with my parents doing an egg hunt when he calls me. Abridged version: he’s leaving kiddo and I to make a new life with his new gf. The now ex best friend situation.

He left for Iowa the day after my birthday. He took his computer with him, because of course that was the most important thing to bring with him. I filed for divorce. He didn’t contest the divorce. Hell he didn’t even reply to the legal proceedings. So I won by default. Only stipulation I put in the divorce agreement was that if he wanted to visit the kiddo, he had to notify me 30 days in advance in writing. Trust me this is important.

Divorce finalized. Life moved on. Moved several times. First to Virginia, then New Mexico, then California, then to where I am now. During this I met my now husband (New Mexico). I tell all this just to give an idea of who was in my life.

A brief note: my kiddo is autistic. That is the reason why we moved so much. To keep his support circle close by. That’s a whole different blog that I might do some other time.

Now for the recent drama. I’m not going to go into the love life of my ex. It’s not my story to tell. Ex hasn’t been the greatest at being in contact with kiddo. But recently they’ve been talking a lot. Like all day type thing. Kiddo is now 20.

This is the story I was told in the aftermath:

My ex was spiraling emotionally, and taking kiddo with him. He also told his step kids that they should just kill themselves. And also that he didn’t care about them. Insert kiddo’s trigger here.

Kiddo then gets my ex’s dad involved on a 3 way call. It didn’t end well. I am finding out all this while on a business trip. I’m 2 hours away from home. My husband is trying to do damage control.

My ex winds up outside of his house on the front lawn refusing to come back inside. I don’t know if he ever came back inside. I’m assuming he did at some point.

My ex’s fiance (we’ll call her Cheryl) calls kiddo and they have a conversation (for quite some time). This is where my history with my ex comes in. Several things were told to kiddo from Cheryl.

1. It is suspected that ex is cheating on Cheryl with close friend.
2. Stories of ex defending himself against stepkids is now called into question because of violent temperament shown.

At my kiddo’s prompting he asked that I try to talk to her because of my past as a listening ear. I did. She never responded. Suspect my ex saw the text, deleted it, and then blocked me.

At this point my kiddo is very angry. Like extremely. Of course I tried to talk him down from his anger. Nope didn’t work. Which given the circumstances I’m not surprised. I then try to give him a project to distract him. I’m home at this point btw. It worked for a bit. I go on a different work trip to Montana (driving).

Day 2 into this trip, kiddo tells me via text that he might need to go to a mental hospital. He wanted to talk to his therapist first though. That would be day 4 of my trip. Also the day I’m driving home.

Day 4 about halfway home, I get a phone call. It was good timing cause I had just gotten pulled over to get gas. Therapist informs that he’s very homicidal towards his biological father. She’s a mandatory reporter, and will be informing them about it. She also wants him to be taken directly to a mental hospital to be evaluated. I’m still 3 hours away from being able to do that. I have them contact my husband. He takes over at this point.

Long story short he’s admitted to the mental facility and he’s there now. I’ve since contacted my ex to tell him. His response (I have a screenshot of it too) was that he’d call tonight when he had a minute to talk. Dad of the year right there.

Now I’m writing all this without hearing his side. I don’t know if I want to. I will probably regret publishing this but I want this bullshit documented somewhere. If you read this far I commend you, this was not a short read.